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6 months ago Latest News

Private Practice Q&A on Zoom

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Premium members are free. Since your account has been upgraded to the premium level, you are invited to join us for a private practice Q&A session on Zoom.

Topic: Private Practice Q & A
Time: Aug 30, 2019, 01:00 PM Eastern Time (US and Canada)

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10 months ago Latest News

Don’t Get Sued Over Your Photos

My First Year Cost Me

Every website needs great photos to draw attention and attract clients. During my first year of private practice, I received a fine for copyright infringement. I made a rookie mistake. Like many do-it-yourselfers, I just did a Google search to find some pictures to post on my website.  It was too easy to do a right-click and save. What a mistake that was. The fine cost me more than I made in a month.

As the business owner, you are responsible even if you hire a website designer. If you do not take your own pictures, make sure you purchase the license to use the photos on your site or download them from a royalty-free site.


Royalty-Free Photos

Since that time, I learned to look for royalty-free websites.  I’ve collected a few of my favorites and have posted them for your benefit.  Don’t be like me, get your royalty free photos,  click here.

If you know of other sites to add to my collection, please add them to the comment section.

2 years ago Latest News , Providers

The Counseling World Needs A Little More Color

Celebrate Multiculturalism

Counselors of Color is a new online lead generation directory for mental health providers.  We provide a niche directory for clients to search for the mental health professional of their choice. Our distinct platform does not shy away from multiculturalism as one of many unique selling points for your practice.  We believe ethnicity and heritage should be celebrated rather than minimized.
Counselors of Color is open to all counseling professionals.  We encourage people from diverse backgrounds, cultures, and countries of origin.  List the multiple languages spoken in your office.


Our primary goal is to help clients find the resources they need; you.  Clients are looking for you.  Help them find you.  You can’t serve your community if they don’t know you exist. Believe it or not, clients do look for providers they are most comfortable with; whether it be language or looks.  Comfort helps to bridge the gap and build rapport.
Another important goal is to help you expand the reach of your practice.  You can do that by listing your practice or facility by signing up here.



Thanks to you and your feedback, we found a way to make the site free.  All we ask in return is your feedback for working out the bugs.  Help us to improve and enhance the site.

Thanks for letting us help you and for you helping us.  Let grow something together.


“The counseling world needs a little more color.  Help us populate and grow Counselors of Color.”

3 years ago Latest News , Providers

Why Are You Doing This For Free?

Below is a recent email reply (edited) for a new member that forced me to become clear regarding my passion and motivation for Counselors of Color.


Member:  “By the way, why are you doing this for free, if you don’t mind me asking?”
Me:  Great question! It’s not entirely for free.  We do have paid features also.  However, our primary goal and motivation are to help grow the field for people of color and minorities.  In 2015 the American Psychological Association published its membership demographic.  ( Out of 77, 881 members, only 1.9 % identified themselves as Latinos and 1.7% identified as African Americans.  Sadly, all the non-whites added together equaled 5.9 %.  That is unacceptable. When I discovered that statistic, I was frustrated and could not believe it.

My Motivation

My wife challenged me to do something instead of complaining about it.  So Counselors of Color was born.  While it is a search directory, it also serves as a platform for me to coach and mentor counselors and therapists to grow their private practice and their influence within their community.  We have plans to offer coaching packages soon.
We will continue to provide free services because we believe it provides value to those that need it.  We also think others will see the value of our paid services through the benefits of the free services. We think of it like an ice cream shop that hands out free samples.  Those that want it and value it will pay for it.  You’ve just received one of my first coaching sessions :).  We look forward to hearing about your continued growth and journey into private practice.  What do you think we can do to grow the field?

About the Author

Dr. Dave Jenkins, DMin, LMFT is a marriage and family therapist in the Northern Virginia area.  He’s the founder of The Fredericksburg Relationship Center, The Relationship School, and Counselors of Color.  He’s been married to the same woman for 25 years and has four children and a daughter-in-law.
3 years ago Latest News , Providers

Where Are All The Men

Men At Work

I look around at the conferences I attend and see that men are underrepresented in the mental health profession. According to, men make up about 23 percent of the mental health field. It’s even less if you specifically look at marriage and family therapists at 15% and social workers at 19%. Women traditionally dominate both of those professions. The highest rate of men is among psychologists at 33% and psychiatrists at 59%. Additionally, according to the American Psychology Association in 2013, minorities only made up 13 percent of the field combined.  So, let’s do the math.  That means minority men make up less than 3% of the mental health profession.

So my questions begin, how important is it to have men of color (Latinos, Asians, African Americans, Arabs, etc.) represented within the mental health profession? What are the implications and should we be concerned? And finally, how do we recruit and encourage more men of color to join the mental health field? I’m curious regarding your thoughts, suggestion, and solutions.


About the Author

Dr. Dave Jenkins, DMin, LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist in the Northern Virginia area.  He’s the founder of Fredericksburg Relationship Center and Counselors of Color.
3 years ago Latest News

I Resisted The Niche That Was Seeking Me

My Niche Found Me

I didn’t want to be known as the “black” therapist.”While my caseload is very diverse, a self-select niche has found me.  They’ve sought me because I’m a black male therapist.  I’m the only Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist that is an African- American man for a 50-mile radius.  Since I wanted to be all things to all people, I consciously avoided marketing as an “African-American” therapist.  However, within my community, there are very few counselors of color.  I resisted being pigeon-holed and the niche that was seeking me.


I Did My Research

Once couples started coming to my facility from many miles away, the researcher in me became curious.  I wanted to know why more African-American couples were willing to drive many miles to get to my facility.  They most like had other counselors available to them within their community.  I started asking the couples, 1) Are there other therapists closer to you?  2)Why did you choose to work with me?  The two highest replies were 1) because you’re a man and 2) because you look like me.  The women of my survey wanted to make sure their husbands were comfortable and didn’t feel “ganged up” on.  Some of the men of my survey stipulate they would only go to counseling with a black man (knowing there were none within their community).

Many said they just felt more comfortable seeing another African-American.  Because the responses were initially vague, I pressed further regarding the racial question.  Moreover, the clients did not want to feel like they needed to defend or justify their background and culture.  They tried to avoid the feelings of being judged.  One client made her point by stating, “I don’t want to explain myself or feel like educating someone about our background.  I’m tired of explaining myself.  I just want to get the help we need.”

I Get It

They were seeking comfort and instant rapport.  My clients made sense, and I stopped resisting the niche that discovered me.  I fully embraced my niche and myself.  I heard a business podcaster state, “Never be ashamed to exploit your unfair business advantage.” He was right; it’s not my fault I was born a man.  Moreover, it’s not my fault others are seeking me because I’m black.  I just need to accept; they are coming to me from where they are.  Interestingly, once I embraced my identity as a black, male, therapist, other races and ethnicity also found me.  I believe it’s because I became authentic and accepted it.

What kinds of clients do you attract?  What have your clients taught you about your hang-ups?

About the Author

Dr. Dave Jenkins, DMin, LMFT is a marriage and family therapist in the Northern Virginia area.  He’s the founder of Fredericksburg Relationship Center, LLC, and Counselors of Color.  He’s been married to the same woman for 25 years and has four children and a daughter-in-law.
3 years ago Latest News , Providers

Clients Look For Connections Even When We Don’t

Comfort Zone

  I was once stationed overseas in Germany.  I learned an invaluable lesson of self-awareness and connections.  Like many soldiers, I was initially scared to leave the comfort of the military base.  I eventually left the station and started to explore the local community.  In the beginning, when I left the comfort of the army base, I eagerly looked for other Soldiers and Americans.  Regardless of their race, they were easy to spot.  The moment I spotted another American, I felt a sense of comfort.  It was as if we had an instant connection.  It didn’t matter whether I knew them or not because I assumed they would understand and accept me.  
  The first question was generally “Where’re you from in the world?” (Military slang referring to the United States).  Followed by “What unit are you with?”  Sometimes there were no conversations, just merely a head nod.  The longer I lived in Germany and the more Germans I got to know from the local community, the less I relied on using other Americans as my security blanket.  I grew to appreciate the German culture and learned the language.  The Germans loved it when I would attempt to connect and speak their language.


  We humans, love l to find connections and look for it everywhere. The moment we discover the person we’re talking to is from our same state, we keep drilling down.  “What city, what neighborhood, what school, what street do live on?”  As the conversation continue, we look for the people we know in common.  We even explore if we’re related.  This process also plays out visually with race and color.  Even though it’s unreliable, race and color are the visual cues that serve as a shortcut to comfort.  It acts as a visual security blanket. 

  Much like my military experience, some are too anxious to leave the comfort of the base and explore the rich diversity of the surrounding community.  Others embraced the rich culture, learned the language and married Germans.  Some were angry about being stationed in Germany and hated everything about Germany.  On the other extreme, some Soldiers were ashamed of their American roots and did everything they could to avoid being seen as American.


Counselors and Therapists

  Most of us counselors and therapists are very comfortable and embrace different cultures.  Our education and training have expanded our worldview.  However, most of our clients do not come to us with this high level of self-awareness, education, and comfort.  Overcoming the anxiety to get help is hard enough for anyone.  For many of our clients, it may be their first time seeking help from a stranger.  Like Soldiers overseas, clients are looking to connect.  Some clients need the security blanket of seeing someone that looks like them.  When the therapist or counselor looks like them, it’s one less hurdle to overcome.  It’s almost instant rapport.  Right or wrong, some clients will never leave the “barracks” and embrace other cultures and communities.  For others, it will not matter as they will thrive and flourish. 

  Even though race may not be a source of anxiety for us as counselors and therapists, it may be for the clients we work with.  As helping professionals, I believe it’s our job to meet our clients where they are rather than expecting them to arrive with our comfort level and worldviews.  Even the Soldiers that refused to leave the base were entitled to good mental health care.  So how does the community you serve know you are open to serve them? 


About the Author

Dr. Dave Jenkins, DMin, LMFT is a marriage and family therapist in the Northern Virginia area.  He’s the founder of Family Room Services, LLC, My Marriage School, and Counselors of Color.  He’s been married to the same woman for 25 years and has four children and a daughter-in-law.
3 years ago Latest News

I Didn’t Appreciate Being Black Until I Married Someone White

I did not fully appreciate being black until I married someone white and started to have children.

I thought I knew what it meant to be black and proud.  I didn’t; I was wrong.  To fit into white American culture, I knew how to dress the part.  I only knew how to compare myself to what I didn’t have, didn’t look like, and aspired to be like.  Likewise, I knew how to present myself in a non-threaten way; in other words, less black.  Even my vocabulary, speech and mannerisms changes and adapted to blend in.  
After being married for 25 years and being open to my wife’s influence, I’ve developed an awareness of being black through her eyes.  Admittedly, I was hesitant to introduce her to my family.  I was ashamed of them and felt like I had to explain and defend their blackness, my culture.  I found myself trying to educate her while defending against my internal criticism of my family and self.  I had abandoned my history and culture.  And in some cases, I just lack the information and knowledge of my rich and diverse background.

Spousal Influence

My wife was inquisitive and naive.  But most of all, she was authentic.  When I lacked information, she took the reins and did her research.  She was boldly talking with family members, asking questions.  Since we were married, she reasoned my culture became her culture; especially once we had children.  God blessed us with two sons and two daughters.
We celebrate Kwanzaa because of my wife.  Before her research, I didn’t understand its importance.   Once we had children, I realize I had failed to pass on my heritage to my children.  I shocked my oldest daughter when a childhood friend came for a visit.  She kept staring at me with a puzzled look.  I inquired after my friend left.  Her response wounded me.  She said, “Dad I didn’t know you could talk black… you always sound so white.”  She saw me differently in the presence of other African Americans.  Moreover, she was right since I hadn’t exposed her to that part of me.  I had not been authentic.  Self-reflection forced me to visit my “Black Shadow” (thank you, Dr. Marlene Watson).
I no longer view my wife’s questions as judgmental attacks.  Rather, I now know there are some things she just does not know about my African American culture and heritage.  She merely seeks to understand and know me better.  Since the European culture is the dominant culture in American society, I know how to navigate in and out of her world with ease.  But she could not move in and out of my realm until I was willing to enter it myself.


I realize now my heritage is something to promote and celebrate.  I’ve stopped criticizing my family, culture, and ethnicity.  I’ve  come to a place of appreciation and self-acceptance.  I’m comfortable living in my own skin.  This position has made me a better therapist as I help my clients develop their personal level of self-acceptance.  I know I can only take my clients as far as I’ve gone.  Therefore, I must keep striving to overcome my own inferiority to promote growth in others.
Celebrating one’s heritage does not exclude others from theirs.  How do you celebrate your rich background and culture and encourage others to celebrate theirs?

About the Author

Dr. Dave Jenkins, DMin, LMFT is a marriage and family therapist in the Northern Virginia area.  He’s the founder of Fredericksburg Relationship Center and Counselors of Color.  He’s been married to the same woman for 25 years and has four children and a daughter-in-law.
3 years ago Latest News , Providers

Counselors, Showcase Your World

Welcome to Counselors of Color.  Admittedly, we are a niche counseling directory.  Our goal is to match clients with their preferred therapists and counselors.

The search services are always free for clients. 

For counselors and therapists, our goal is to help you market and expand your facility to serve your communities better.  Showcase your facilities with Counselors of Color.

Counselors of Color is now free for providers!  

Counselors of Color will not shy away from race or ethnicity.  For many of us, it is our world.  Therefore, we aim to highlight and promote those differences; not from a place of inferiority or supremacy.  However, from a place of self-acceptance.  Counselors often ask their clients to “become comfortable living in their own skin.”  Counselors of Color will extend that metaphor and ask you to do the same as counselors and therapists.

Our private Facebook group is open to all counselors and therapists whether you’re a premium member or not.  You can also find our group on LinkedIn.

List your facility and your Staff with us by signing up HERE.



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